Each of us were “fearfully and wonderfully made” to be exactly who we are. And the sooner you get to know who you are in Christ, the sooner you’ll be a blessing to the entire body!
“He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.”– Ephesians 4:16 NLT
we were made for relationships – with God, ourselves and others
I love the idea of this – everyone coming together to empower and build one another up. See, it doesn’t work if we’re all stressing ourselves out to play the same part in the body. We can’t all be the eyes, or the hands.
you are fearfully + wonderfully made
I wish I could say every relationship in my life was built on my relationship in God first. But, I’ve lived a fairly selfish life in thinking the most important relationship was always with myself. By always trying to get my way and make myself better – whether that included God’s opinion or not. But in living this way, I’ve learned 1 BIG thing. Loving ourselves without putting God first isn’t love at all.
(in)secure love vs. secure love
That kind of love doesn’t know what unfailing, unconditional love means. That kind of love is only secure when it gets the outcomes that it wants. That kind of (in)secure love focuses inwardly, and we weren’t made that way. But, here’s the tricky part and where the struggle comes in… We were born into a world that praises self-love above praising our own creator.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.– Psalm 139:14 NIV
We learn to really love ourselves when we know who created us and why. That kind of love is secure in God, not ourselves. He calls us to receive His love and share it with broken, (in)secure people – like ourselves.
the good news
The good news is that God gives us everything we need to live in His will for our lives. Our role is to receive what He’s given us and give it away. And when we do that together, we’re able to be “healthy and growing and full of love”.
However, if we learned how to use all the gifts God has given us to work together with others – it means nothing without love.
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.– 1 Corinthians 13:1-7
Pray with God about areas of your life that you feel convicted to be more loving. Ask him to test and teach you how to become secure in His love.
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