In a world full of unrealistic expectations, we tend to covet/judge who everyone else is and end up comparing ourselves to them and not actually learning to see ourselves the way God does. We can often anticipate validation from what others think of us or how we’re treated rather than spending time alone with God and ourselves for a reality check of who we actually are.
I for one am guilty of this! And I’ve found that the best antidote for comparison is to celebrate – celebrate whomever you’re envying and then celebrate yourself!
You are worthy of celebrating!
Depending on the day, this can be one of the easiest tasks or most difficult challenges. It’s easy to like ourselves when we’re making progress towards something – whether it’s shedding the lbs, hitting a sales quota, paying off that debt, you name it… But what about when you’re backsliding? What about when you took those few steps forward only to fall 10 steps behind? How do you like or see yourself then?
Is your love for yourself based on your own conditions? Or is it so rooted in God’s love that you can forgive yourself for your mistakes and receive his redemption and fully accept yourself in the middle of the mud?
There’s also the opposite end of this spectrum where we can give ourselves a little too much credit for our progress and stir up pride in our hearts. Both are equally dangerous in my opinion. To see ourselves as less than worthy prevents us from reaching our fullest potential while being building up our egos can invite its own troubles into our hearts.
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
John 14:6 ESV
We were created in God’s image to fulfill our own unique purpose in His timing. He gives us just enough strength and courage and grace to get through every season whether we’re making progress or not. Why not enjoy ourselves during the ups and the downs? The more we understand God’s love the more we’re able to receive it and extend it to others!
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10
Now, speak the bolded declarations out loud to yourself. The power of life and death is in the tongue, so it is vital that you only allow the Truth to come out of your mouth. It could be the difference in an amazing life and a disappointing one. (Proverbs 18:21)