Anyone else love taking personality type tests? I love rediscovering different things about myself and challenging myself to be my best version – especially when I’m in a rut or forgetting to take time to do the things that bring me true joy. I catch myself feeling tempted to do what I see is making other people happy. I’ll think something along the lines of “they seem to really be enjoying that maybe I should spend a little time trying to do something like that too”. Especially in a world of social media where everyone always posts about things that seem to be making them happy at that time. How can we not covet that or compare to what they’re doing and want to have that same happiness?
Well, for starters, I have personally learned there is almost nothing fruitful in trying to follow what appears to make someone else happy. I’m not saying that if you see something that interests you then you shouldn’t on some level try to experience those things for yourself sometimes. But if all we focus on is what we can do next to make ourselves happy for the end result of us just feeling fulfilled, it’s almost never successful.
I was on a 4-hour flight to Los Angeles yesterday and while I would usually take that time to crush candy, sleep or watch a movie I was craving something a bit more productive. Without bringing a book/journal and having the slowest Wifi connection in the world (yes, I exaggerate) my options were limited so I found myself browsing the entertainment options on Delta Studio. Keep in mind, I was feeling productive. I wasn’t wanting to get roped back into This Is Us or some super addictive show that makes me feel emotionally invested. Ha! Anyways, I finally landed on these 2-5 minute “learning” episodes produced by LinkedIn that interview successful CEOs or educators who speak on different subject matters. I watched quite a few covering everything from how to set better goals to defining success. The success habits stood out to me and I couldn’t stop thinking about that 5 minute lesson throughout the day. Usually when something perks me up and replays through my mind all day I’ll finally find the courage or the time to share it and that’s exactly what I did. And I say that to you, specifically, not to come across like “oh, look what I am accomplishing”, but to hopefully plant a little seed in your mind that if you think on good things and they keep popping up, maybe you were given those things to share with someone else and not just keep them to yourself.
The entire basis of the successful habits lesson boiled down to reaching ultimate success when your focus is on helping others. That’s it. When you have a passion that adds value to someone else – be it a service, a product, knowledge – you can find true success in their benefit.
God gave us gifts to benefit someone else. Someone being able to sing blesses those who get to hear their songs. While the singer gets to enjoy it, they also have to work towards it and the others get to be blessed by it. There is work to our gift(s). God gives us what we can handle to manage our gifts and be fruitful in them and he expects us to share them, not hide them. I love how Joyce Meyer says “use it or lose it” when it comes to our gifts. Most people waste their time trying to strengthen their weaknesses and ignore the development of their strengths.
I’ve found that the best place to start is by diving into who we really are and what our strengths are so that we can share them with others as a gift. Not only does this bring us true joy and ultimate success but we’re also able to bear fruit by sharing with others, whether we get to see that fruit or not.
Not sure what your gifts or strengths are? Here are just a few of my favorite personality tests you may want to try:
6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith;7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach;8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.Romans 12: 6-8 ESV
Learn to live out your gifts by first knowing who you are, what your gifts are and then by sharing them.
And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment,10 so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ,11 filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.